Kingdom of God – Unforgiving Servant
Sr High Study Guide
Nov 11, 2016
Matthew 18:21–35 (HCSB)
21 Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how many times could my brother sin against me and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” 22 “I tell you, not as many as seven,” Jesus said to him, “but 70 times seven. 23 For this reason, the kingdom of heaven can be compared to a king who wanted to settle accounts with his slaves. 24 When he began to settle accounts, one who owed 10,000 talents was brought before him. 25 Since he had no way to pay it back, his master commanded that he, his wife, his children, and everything he had be sold to pay the debt. 26 “At this, the slave fell facedown before him and said, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you everything!’ 27 Then the master of that slave had compassion, released him, and forgave him the loan. 28 “But that slave went out and found one of his fellow slaves who owed him 100 denarii. He grabbed him, started choking him, and said, ‘Pay what you owe!’ 29 “At this, his fellow slave fell down and began begging him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’ 30 But he wasn’t willing. On the contrary, he went and threw him into prison until he could pay what was owed. 31 When the other slaves saw what had taken place, they were deeply distressed and went and reported to their master everything that had happened. 32 “Then, after he had summoned him, his master said to him, ‘You wicked slave! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 33 Shouldn’t you also have had mercy on your fellow slave, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And his master got angry and handed him over to the jailers to be tortured until he could pay everything that was owed. 35 So My heavenly Father will also do to you if each of you does not forgive his brother from his heart.”
Romans 12:18–21 (HCSB)
18 If possible, on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19 Friends, do not avenge yourselves; instead, leave room for His wrath. For it is written: Vengeance belongs to Me; I will repay, says the Lord. 20 But If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him something to drink. For in so doing you will be heaping fiery coals on his head. 21 Do not be conquered by evil, but conquer evil with good.
• Peter was asking the right question, a lot of us don’t even get that far.
Forgive without limits
The Kingdom of God is Righteous
• We can be made right
• We can help others learn how to be made right with God.
• Kingdom citizens long to make people right with us, loving the light and hating the dark.
• Most people don’t have an appreciation for the debt of sin.
• Jesus used an illustration with an amount of money owed to show that it is an un-payable debt.
• Put yourself in the place of that servant
• Completely forgiven, joy!
• The King’s forgiveness was complete and was a mercy – filled gift.
What does this show us about the Unforgiving servant’s heart?
• He didn’t understand the Kingdom. Forgiven people have a joy that comes from being forgiven, and they want for others to experience that joy as well.
• When forgiveness is refused, it says that we have lost sight of what we have been forgiven. This servant wanted to be forgiven but was unwilling to forgive.
This parable is a warning. We need to see ourselves in the place of that servant was forgiven a debt that could not be repaid. Now, how will we treat those who have debts against us?
• No matter the wrong done against you, it comes nowhere close to the wrong you have done against God.
Forgiveness must come from the heart.
• Forgiveness from the heart doesn’t keep count of offenses.
• We should not be reluctant, but glad to forgive because we are forgiven.
• Jesus loved to forgive people, that’s a key message of the Kingdom of God, its a Kingdom of righteousness that you can be a part of by being made right with God.
• Jesus forgave from his heart because he wanted to see people made right.
How to forgive when the person who has wronged you does not repent.
Our first step in forgiving concerns our own hearts. We pray to God for their forgiveness, and we let go of any debt that we could hold against them.
Our second step in forgiveness is making the relationship right through restoration.
Restoration cannot happen without repentance. The one who has done wrong must repent, and the repentance must be proportional to the debt.
If there is no true repentance, then we forgive, but unfortunately, that relationship is still not made right. And so we pray for them, and we leave them in God’s hands.
Forgiven people forgive people.
People who delight in being made right, take delight in making others right.
What is the origin of the word “forgive”. (try word-detective.com)
Discuss the meaning of Proverbs 19:11
How do you forgive a person who might hurt you in the future?
Discuss the meaning of Ephesians 4:32
What is the role of kindness and compassion in forgiveness?
How can God help you to forgive others?
Simplify your life by forgiving all who have debts against you, and seek repentance where you are wrong.