Kingdom of God – Wedding Banquet

Kingdom of God – Wedding Banquet

SR High Youth – October 14

Matthew 22:1–14 (HCSB)

1 Once more Jesus spoke to them in parables: 2 “The kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son. 3 He sent out his slaves to summon those invited to the banquet, but they didn’t want to come. 4 Again, he sent out other slaves, and said, ‘Tell those who are invited: Look, I’ve prepared my dinner; my oxen and fattened cattle have been slaughtered, and everything is ready. Come to the wedding banquet.’ 5 “But they paid no attention and went away, one to his own farm, another to his business. 6 And the others seized his slaves, treated them outrageously and killed them. 7 The king was enraged, so he sent out his troops, destroyed those murderers, and burned down their city. 8 “Then he told his slaves, ‘The banquet is ready, but those who were invited were not worthy. 9 Therefore go to where the roads exit the city and invite everyone you find to the banquet.’ 10 So those slaves went out on the roads and gathered everyone they found, both evil and good. The wedding banquet was filled with guests. 11 But when the king came in to view the guests, he saw a man there who was not dressed for a wedding. 12 So he said to him, ‘Friend, how did you get in here without wedding clothes?’ The man was speechless. 13 “Then the king told the attendants, ‘Tie him up hand and foot, and throw him into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’ 14 “For many are invited, but few are chosen.”


  1. An incredibly rude response to a very generous invitation.
  2. The kings logical and right judgement.
  3. The food can’t go to waste, invite whoever you can find.
  4. A wedding guest with insulting clothes is cast out
  5. For many are invited, but few are chosen.


In Jesus parable a group of people who were originally invited to the wedding feast disrespectfully decline the invitation.  Jesus aimed that description towards the religious leaders who rejected him.  These were people that everyone thought would be a part of God’s Kingdom because of their religious attitudes.  Jesus was showing that in rejecting him, they were rejecting God.

What sort of people today would fall into the category of those who look like they should be a part of God’s Kingdom, but are instead rejecting Jesus and God the Father?

In the parable the King represents God the Father.  In two separate parts of the story, he delivers very strong punishment.  First he burns down a city of people that rejected his invitation.  Then he orders a poorly dressed guest to be thrown out to hell, (a place where there is weeping and gnashing of teeth.)

God’s punishment is very severe.  Is God’s punishment fair?  Do you have a perspective on God that allows for this type of punishment?  How should we consider God’s judgment from the actions of the King in this parable?

In the parable, many people who were not given the initial invitation on to the feast are invited in the end.  We should understand this to mean that God the Father has extended the invitation to his Kingdom to people who we might not think are deserving.

What sorts of people today are invited to God’s Kingdom? 

Leaders, help the students to see that many people that we think are unworthy are still offered an invitation by God.  It will be helpful to include categories of all types of people. 

The wedding guest that was cast out because he was unwilling to change his clothes to a set that were honouring for the groom.  As Christians, we must be willing to change the way that we are clothed as well.  We are not talking about physical clothes, though, instead we are talking about being clothed as the King’s children, Holy & Loved.

Colossians 3:12–13 (HCSB)

12 Therefore, God’s chosen ones, holy and loved, put on heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, 13 accepting one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a complaint against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you must also forgive.

What priority have you given to changing the attitudes that you are clothed with? 

What attitudes are you currently clothed with that need to be changed?

The parable ends with this statement, “For many are called, but few are chosen.”

Discuss the value and implications of being “chosen” by God.


Pray and meditate on Colossians 3:12-13 with the goal of wearing “Kingdom Clothes”.  Consider the meaning of each word or phrase and ask, “how can this shape my attitudes in life.”